Monday, May 19, 2008
Manic Monday: Play
"Butterfly Kisses, a song by Bob Carlisle that climbed the charts in 2000, received international recognition in both the Christian and secular music industries. The song was about the tender love between a father and his daughter, starting from her birth to her wedding day. Mr. Carlisle said, 'I get a lot of mail from young girls who try to get me to marry their moms. That used to be a real chuckle because it's so cute, but then I realized they didn't want romance for mom. They want the father that is in that song, and that just kills me.'
Our modern society has downplayed the importance of fathers over the past 40 years. Television programs such as Leave It to Beaver, Father Knows Best, and Make Room for Daddy portrayed dads as a wellspring of wisdom, compassion, and guidance.
By the end of the sixties, that began to change. In 1971, All in the Family featured Archie Bunker, a bigoted, bungling oppressor. Then came Tim Taylor of Home Improvement with the recurring theme of Tim messing something up and his wife, Jill, straightening it out. I could go on with The Simpsons, Roseanne, and even the Berenstein Bears cartoons. In the nineties, Murphy Brown (played by Candace Bergen) announced to the world that children really didn't need a father at all. Suffice it to say that now fathers on television are more likely to be portrayed as obstacles than as overcomers of obstacles.
In 1995, about 40 percent of American children went to sleep in homes in which their fathers did not live. The 2000 census showed that 84 percent of children in America who live in single-parent families live with their mothers. The feminist movement has tried to teach women that they do not need men - fathers or husbands. In 2000, an article in Time magazine suggested that remaining unmarried can be "incredibly empowering for women," even when the choice involves raising children without the presence of a father. "Who needs men?" some women taunt.
I'll tell you who- children."
-Sharon James, Dreams of a Woman